My style of counseling is collaborative. That means that I respect you as a person and your right to make your own decisions. You are the expert in your own life and it is not for me to tell you what to do. I may make suggestions for time to time, but it is always your choice to try them out or not. – They will always be suggestions and not orders. I cannot live your life, only you can do that, I am simply here to support and assist you finding the right solutions for you as you examine the difficulties that you face. I will help you identify and acknowledge the skills and strengths you already possess and acquire new ones if you need to, as well as helping you develop creative strategies to use as you decide what is best for you.
The most important thing in any counseling relationship is trust. When choosing a counselor to work with: look for someone you feel comfortable with and have a sense of connection too – someone you feel you can talk to easily. This may not happen at the first session because it may feel strange to be entering this kind of relationship, especially if you have not had counseling before, but there is usually a ‘gut feeling’ to guide you. If you continue and find that after all it isn’t working for you, you can always look for someone else with whom you do feel a bond.
Remember it’s all about you and in order to get the best outcome for yourself it is necessary for you to feel you can be completely open with your counselor.
Sometimes it can help you to decide what you are looking for in a counselor by finding out something about them. You can learn more about me by going to the ‘About Me’ link at the top of the page.